RE Appt Part 1: A New Hope

Well our last try with the OB was a bust so it's on to the Reproductive Endocrinologist aka RE. Having to seek a specialist's help definitely conjures up a mixture of emotions. Part of me is hopeful that this will be just the thing to get us to where we need to be and fulfill our dreams of becoming parents, and part of me feels like a failure for needing this extra help. But I was still eager to meet with a doctor sooner rather than later which is why I was so grateful that my insurance provided me with a list of in network RE's and I found one that could not only get me in the same week, but the doctor also has stellar reviews from past patients on yahoo local. Of 18 reviews, 17 gave him 5 stars and the 18th gave him 4.

After meeting with Dr. Lee on Friday, I can confirm that those reviews were well deserved. His staff his friendly and helpful and he is hands down the best doctor I have ever had the pleasure of having a conversation with. Chad and I both clicked with him instantly and felt very comforted by his manner and approach. We discussed all of our previous testing and Dr. Lee proclaimed Chad to have "super sperm" as he has higher than average count and motility, something that definitely put a little smile on Chad's face. We also reviewed what we've done up until this point and then I had a little visit with wandy. Never my favorite part of any doctor visit but Dr Lee made the process more comfortable for me and was very good about showing us both what was on screen and explaining everything. He then assured me that my ovaries are "fantastic" and my eggs look good enough to be used for donation. Needless to say, Chad and I both felt pretty good about our reproductive odds after hearing that both our basic baby-making ingredients are in tip-top shape.

The problem was still my tubes. It was figuring out how much of a hindrance they are that was the we needed. Dr. Lee couldn't see any problems with my tubes on the ultrasound which is a good sign but he wanted to review the HSG films with us and get an accurate picture of what is happening with my plumbing. So he instructed us to get a copy from the radiology office and come in to review then with him and then discuss our options.

We raced out of there and had the films within half an hour. Unfortunately, Chad had to get back to work so we couldn't review the films the same day but we were able to schedule RE appt part 2 for Monday morning. It was wonderful to leave that office feeling hopeful again. We know that there will still be work to be done but it's great to know that despite our challenges we actually do have some things going for us. And it's great to know that we have a doctor that seems to really care about our success. I am showing my geek side here, but I feel like Dr. Lee is our Luke Skywalker, using the force of his experience and passion to defeat the dark side of our fertility and help us to have a baby. Well at the very least, he has definitely given us new hope that we will succeed soon.

My 1st blog Award!

Wow this is so exciting! I'd like to thank the academy...oh wait not that award. I already gave up on that one. I would seriously like to thank Roxanne and Jenn who are both incredibly awesome bloggers and so sweet to have passed this award on to me. Thank you both so much! I am truly honored!

• Thank the person who nominated you for this award.
• Copy the award and place it in your blog.
• Link the person who nominated you for this award.
• Tell us 7 interesting things about you.
• Nominate 7 bloggers.
• Post the links to the 7 bloggers you nominate.

Seven Interesting (I think) Things About Me.

1. Jon Stewart used a joke I told him during the meet and greet before a taping to open the Daily Show- true story!
   
2. I just barely got out of high school but graduated from college Summa Cum Laude.
   
3. My 1st pet was a house bunny named Angel. He was litter trained and used to scratch at my door to wake me up for school.
   
4. I used to perform in a Nickelodeon stage show, complete with pies in the face and slime. Chad proposed there after I got off work and before I saw him I though I was about to get pied.
   
5. When I met my husband he was my boss but we did not date or even hang out outside of work until after we had stopped working together. (I swear!)
   
6. I had a "quarter-life crisis" when I turned 25 and took a solo train trip from Florida to DC and then NYC. It was an AMAZING experience.
   
7. I unwittingly "wrote" the tagline for the movie "Up in the Air" and also met Jason Reitman (the director) at a marketing screening.
   

I realize there is not a lot of explanation on this list and some of these have longer stories so if you have any questions or want to know more please feel free to ask!

Seven bloggers that I pass this award to:

Sharon

Lisa

Tiffany

Randi

Cathy

Em

Kieran

Of course there are SO many wonderful blogs on my reading list that I wanted to nominate but I wanted to try and spread the love around a bit to bloggers that haven't gotten this award yet (or at least recently) and I LOVE these blogs. Plus I really want to find out what their 7 interesting things will be!

Pressing Pause

My temps dropped. Late. And then AF came. Late. I cried my heart out and mourned this lost cycle and lamented about the tricks my body played on me. And then I realized that I need a break from the insanity. I am sick of being on a schedule. I am tired of being so hyper aware of everything my body is doing. I miss the days when Chad and I were just "not preventing", blissfully naive about my blocked tube and believing that if we just behaved like a normal married couple we would surely have a child nine months later. I am emotionally and mentally drained and consumed with the ttc process. It's time to hit pause.

Since this was my last cycle on clomid we have decided to press pause on the whole TTC routine. No temping, no OPKs, no clomid, no crazy BD rituals or requirements. Just a month for Chad and me to just be us. Of course, thanks to many months of charts, I have a vague idea of when I will ovulate so there is a good chance we will still BD during that time, but only if we want to. I know it will be a challenge for my controlling side to let go like this but I am also very relieved to give up some of the stress.

We are in no way giving up the fight, but we realize that it's time to take a break from the battle to rest and regroup. And this is also a perfect opportunity to meet with the experts and re-strategize. Our first appointment with the RE is this Friday. I have mixed feelings about this stage of our TTC journey but I ultimately feel like it's the direction for us right now.

Of course, there is the chance that our plan to take a break will change once we meet with the RE if he wants to do monitoring this cycle, but that's the great thing about a pause button, you can hit play and start right where you left off.

Hope is Scary

Today is 11dpo and my temp is the same as yesterday. This has NEVER happened. My temp always starts going down by now. My LP is only 12 days so a temp drop at 11dpo is expected and very typical, but today it didn't happen. I had a significant dip at 9dpo and assumed it was the beginning of the end but then at 10dpo it went back up and is still there! (my chart) I am trying to keep my feet on the ground but the bubble of of hope in my heart is getting bigger and is about to float away with me.

Before you ask, yes I caved and poas'd this morning: BFN. I know that 11dpo is pretty early though, so the knowledge of my not falling temp this morning is staying with me. This is dangerous. I have been having those daydreams about how I would tell friends and family, when the baby would be due, and how I would decorate the nursery. I have even gone so far as to find out that if we did in fact conceive this month it would have happened on January 13, which as you may recall is our lego anniversary and the start of our lucky 8th year together. Little things like this make me even more hopeful.

The ups and downs of ttc and struggling with infertility has never made me more afraid to hope. As horrible as I felt last month knowing I wasn't pregnant, as I watched my temperatures fall at least I was prepared for the heartbreak. When I dare to hope the pain of another failed cycle seems to be that much greater. Don't get me wrong, I'm not always hope-phobic. For the majority of every cycle I am very hopeful that this could be the month and I relish the new hopes and possibilities during that time period, it's the last few days of the 2ww when everything gets real. This is the time that will make or break me emotionally. I just fear that I will have sky-high hopes today, despite my best attempts to stay grounded, and I will be in that much more pain tomorrow when my temp drops or worse when AF shows her ugly face.

If this cycle does end in disappointment it's on to the next phase of treatment including my first visit to the RE and most likely surgery for my blocked tube. I am mostly ok with that. I am sure some tears will be shed in the process but I am optimistic that this will be the right course to take. Unless I really am already pregnant....should I really dare to dream?

Wordless Wednesday: Longest 2 weeks of every month

Only a few days left in the 2ww...

Busted Libs!

I love Mad-Libs! Friends and I have been known to gather round the firepit, mad-lib book in hand taking turns coming up with snarky, gross, cheesy and just plain silly words to plug into a mad-lib story. So when I heard about Busted Kate's "Busted Lib's" about infertility I had to do one. So here it is. I swear no cheating or peeking took place! If you want to do one go here and do it 1st so you don't ruin it for yourself.

1. An Emotion- annoying

2. An Emotion- silly

3. An Emotion- hopeful

4. Body Part- nostril

5. Body Part- hoo ha

6. Adjective- smelly

7. Color- turquoise

8. Adjective- splotchy

9. Adverb- fiercely

10. Adverb- mysteriously

11. Verb- scuba dive

12. Famous Celebrity- Oprah

13. Adjective- sticky

14. Plural Noun- geese

Your First Visit to the Reproductive Endocrinologist

Your first visit to a Fertility Specialist, also known as a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE), can be [annoying] (1: An emotion). But don't worry! Your RE can be your first step in finding both the cause of and solution to your infertility. Infertility problems can make you feel [silly] (2: An emotion) or [hopeful] (3: An emotion), however a good RE will take time to address these feelings. The RE may then do an examination of your [nostril] (4: Body part) visually or by using an ultrasound. The RE may also examine your partner's [hoo ha] (5: Body part) for any signs of abnormality. The doctor will ask you some pretty personal questions, like if your cervical mucus is [smelly] (6: Adjective) and [turquoise] (7: Color), and if your menstruation looks [splotchy] (8: Adjective). The doctor may suggest that you have intercourse [fiercely] (9: Adverb) rather than [mysteriously] (10: Adverb), and for you to [scuba dive] (11: Verb) after intercourse. And don't feel bad if you have fertility challenges, even famous celebrities like [Oprah] (12: Famous Celebrity) have received infertility treatment. The most important is to keep a [sticky] (13: Adjective) attitude, and turn to your [geese] (14: Plural noun) for support. Good luck in your journey!

Nearly Wordless Wednesday: 8 Days a Week...

Chad and I have been legos since the very beginning of our relationship because legos "fit together"

Today is 7 years that my "Lego" and I have been together and officially marks the start of our 8th year together. And 8 is my lucky number.....

Love you Lotskies Babe!