Monday, February 15, 2010
Baby Bucket List on Repeat?
Did someone hit the "repeat" button on my baby bucket list? Two years ago for our 1st wedding anniversary Chad and I went on a mini roadtrip to North Carolina from Florida to go snowboarding in the mountains near Boone. I had never been and we both agreed we should do it before we had kids, which we assumed would be very soon. Now one month before our 3rd wedding anniversary we still have no children and we are revisiting things we had already crossed off the "things to do before kids" list. This has been a common theme circulating in the TTC community lately as infertility has impacted many couples who thought this vacation would be their last one as a childless couple only to find themselves booking another vacation for two a year later.
Since we live so close to a great skiing area we decided to take advantage of our new geography and go snowboarding before we have kids...again. We have crossed off, and even repeated, so many things on our "baby bucket list" - Europe,bungee jumping, roadtrips, NYC, tattoos, cruises, snowboarding- that sometimes it becomes a painful reminder of just how long we have been on this journey to parenthood. But this weekend we also realized that each of these have been amazing experiences and in many ways prepared us for the different parts of our journey. Although I am ready to be a mom, I wouldn't trade these moments with Chad for anything. They have made us a stronger, more well-rounded couple which has not only helped us through the trials of infertility but I believe will also make us even better parents.
We had a great time snowboarding for the 2nd time and really enjoyed the chance to spend the day together, blowing off some steam before this IVF cycle gets started. My mock transfer is scheduled for this Wednesday and I start meds that day also. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous about all that's to come, so snowboarding was a great way to get out some nervous energy. Even though I thought the next time I went it would be with my kids, watching them learn to ski or snowboard, I am glad that we took advantage of this opportunity. Chad was such a kind and patient teacher and it reminded me of just how much I love him and what a wonderful father he is going to be, and reaffirmed that we are making the right choice by going forward with IVF.
So now I am curious. Do you have a "baby bucket list" of things you want to do or accomplish before you have children? What have you already done or even repeated? What do you have left that you hope to do before your family expands? I would love to hear your pre-baby goals and dreams!